Intuitive Enneagram Coaching
Awakening to our True Nature through the Enneagram
By Ramona Reid, LMT, Reiki Master & Intuitive Enneagram Coach
For years, I tried to be different.
I felt shame in the amount of emotion that I felt, in the dramatic emotional ways I reacted to things. I went to therapy, I read books, I meditated and I recited mantras. I did all of this to quiet the thoughts, the grasping, the craving for love and attention, and the perceived lack of it that I felt.
I read and I read and I read, Thich Nhat Hanh and Pema Chodron, Buddhist teachings on acceptance, impermanence and suffering. I analyzed my relationships, all of the externals and patterns that I had created. I tempered and quieted and tamed.
Then one day I heard the word Enneagram from a dear friend. I picked up a book about it and everything split wide open. Have you ever had one of those moments when you are reading or hearing something completely new to you, and it is as familiar as your own skin? I read my story in those pages. The biography of my heart, and all of the wisdom and shame was there on paper, explicit and specific descriptions of my thoughts and fears. I read about all of the nine personality types, and while I saw myself so perfectly in one of them, I recognized family, friends, and lovers in some of the other types — it floored me.
I read more books on the Enneagram, books focused on work relationships and dynamics, on love and on family. I read about ego and personality and how these things are not our true nature. These books contained the answers to all of the questions I hadn’t even known to ask. And in all of this self-study and contemplation, I realized that I had been squelching the very best parts of me in an attempt to feel more “normal.” In my attempts to understand my reactions, in my tempering, quieting and taming, I was lessening myself.
The Enneagram is a personality typing system and so much more, incorporating traditional wisdom with modern psychology. It explains that we are one of 9 different personality types, with varying degrees of health inside each type, and unique “wings” and instinctual variants. It outlines how each
type tends to deal with stress, conflict, matters of the heart, boundaries, work and social interactions. The Enneagram describes the box of personality that we have all learned to live inside, our rules of engagement and reactionary patterns, where our ego sabotages us and where we place value…. And then it allows for a path out of that box, a disintegration of the walls of personality and integration into our highest selves. Each type has a unique essential quality, or wisdom, as well as a pathos or fixation, a blind spot where our ego will sometimes take over and lead us into habitual thoughts, patterns and reactions. Learning our essential quality and our egoic reactions is equally important, in my opinion, as it allows for insight into our true nature, and illuminates the many ways we unconsciously attempt to sabotage it.
Whether we are a Heart, Mind or Body type — the most basic of all distinctions between the 9 types — we experience the energy of each of the other types as well, both in aspects of ourselves and through interactions with our coworkers, friends and loved ones. Learning about our own type is crucial, at the same time when we examine the truths of all nine types, we are able to bring the whole picture into focus and understand more fully how we experience the world and each other.
I encourage anyone seeking more self-awareness to learn more about the Enneagram, and start along the path of awakening to our true nature.
Ramona offers one-hour Enneagram consultations, during which a client can discover their Enneagram personality type, learn about the Enneagram as a system for self-awareness and growth, and learn how to use the Enneagram to become their most authentic self.
$80 - 60 minute session